No one likes when a friend, a boss or family ask about when or how the work will be done.
We all like to be left alone and do what we need to do. Yet, we are still asked sometimes these questions, therefore, it’s worth considering why do people feel like they need to micromanage us?
I think it has to do with control and expectations.
Expectations are personal projected possible realities for the future
When we are concerned that our expectations may not get fulfilled, then it feels like we are losing control.
At that moment, we are telling ourselves that we must intervene, otherwise, what needs to be done may not get done, or at least not in the manner we hoped or by the time we want it.
The solution for that is rather simple, yet, harder to implement.
If you are the person who is responsible for the work, then it’s also important to take responsibility for the communication that needs to take place while producing the work.
You should ask yourself:
- Who is this work important for and why is it important for that person?
- What is expected of me to do?
- Am I expected to deliver and perform my work in a certain manner?
- When am I expected to deliver my work?
- How often am I expected to communicate throughout the process?
Answering these questions is what you are unknowingly committing to when you take on a responsibility.
If you are the person who needs someone else’s to do the work for them, then it’s important you help the other person answer these questions for you before work has already begun.
Getting clear on expectations is productive, efficient, and can save many relationships.
If you are a person who happens to be bothered quite often about your responsibilities, then it’s worth considering that your communication is lacking or at least not as effective as it can be.
On the other hand, put your trust in people more often so they can surprise you with their own creative results.
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